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Jun 14, 2021 2:19:55 PM / by Laurel Starks


June marks an historical milestone for civil rights as the landmark case, Obergefell vs Hodges, paved the way in 2015 for same-sex marriages to become legal throughout the United States.

As Realtors, we may be retained to handle the sale of property in these cases, so it would be prudent for us to know a few key things that can help us be better professionals.

“By one vote, the court rules that same-sex marriage cannot be banned in the United States and that all same-sex marriages must be recognized nationwide, finally granting same-sex couples equal rights to heterosexual couples under the law.” (This Day in History, History.com)

Before Obergefell vs Hodges, states were left to create their own laws and many had Civil Unions or Domestic Partnerships before marriage was an option. Therein lies the complexity and uniqueness to the legalities involved in same-sex divorces vs those in heterosexual divorces.

1. Pilgrimage to the Alter Complicates Divorce: You may recall many years ago when some states such as Vermont, Massachusetts, and California were more progressive than others and first legalized same-sex marriage. Elated, couples migrated to those states to effectuate their nuptials and then returned to their home state to carry on with their lives. Fast forward, they divorce. According to Emily Haan, a family law attorney for the National Center for Lesbian Rights, “Several states still require nonresident same-sex couples who were married or joined by civil union there to meet multiple requirements before a dissolution of their union will be granted.

2. Married, and Then Some: Because of the way in which marriage equality laws evolved, many same-sex couples partook in the Civil Unions, then in Domestic Partnership arrangements, and then officially married when that was permitted by law. Therefore, they can have multiple legal relationship statuses. According to William Singer (an attorney who represents LGBT clients with Singer & Fedun in Belle Mead, New Jersey), in many states, the courts are still struggling to resolve which relationship status takes precedence for the purposes of dividing property in a divorce settlement. Do they factor in property that was jointly owned as far back as the couple’s first legal union, or back to when marriage became legal in their state?

3. A Future with Multiple Relationship Statuses: Untying a marital knot does not automatically squash civil unions or domestic partnerships. As Shelly Gigante writes in Mass Mutual’s blog, “Leaving anything in tact can prevent them from remarrying down the road. Further, any future marriage could be deemed null and void, which might jeopardize that individual’s position in a division of property — or child custody — in the event that marriage also ends in a divorce.”


The bottomline for Realtors is this: 

  • When we have a client who is going through a same-sex divorce, we need to pull title very early to establish who holds title to the house - a former partner could still have ownership or a stake in the equity.
  • Do not assume that proceeds distribution will be a non-issue. Depending on how many layers of legalities and rights to the property there are, this could put a big snag in cooperation, and some clients refuse to sign closing paperwork until things are resolved.
  • If there is an ongoing divorce or break-up, refer the client to an attorney who specializes in same-sex dissolutions, preferably before getting started with the listing

Topics: Divorce Files

Laurel Starks

Written by Laurel Starks